Tara Gray is a stay at home mom in Hanover county. She says she was a mom in her heart before she became one. Tara enjoys any opportunity to get outside as a family. Carytown, Colonial beach, Belle Isle or a picnic in Maymont.
The question, is there a stigma around the title/role as stay at home mom, and or housewife? We do not get a cute, or cheesy catchphrase upon entering a room like the housewives on tv. It seems to me that a lot of stay at home moms feel the need to offer up a reason, almost as a child afraid of being in trouble or looked down on by pouring on the excuses. When you are a stay at home mom at some point and time we all get asked the generic question. Innocently when you have nothing else to talk about, here it comes…so "what do you do" or my favorite "where do you work"? Years ago, the decision was made for us as a family when the cost of childcare would outweigh the benefit of me working outside of the home full time. It was a very basic math problem. I would benefit us by staying home. For us parents that do not have free childcare, AKA a family member at your beckon call then the decision is much easier to make. I have been asked many times at a social setting or school function what did I do? Feeling in a playful mood one time when I was asked what I did, I answered "oh a little of this and a little of that". We moved on to an easier topic, the weather.